What does fatherhood mean to you?
As a father, you're responsible for another person and you're responsible for so many different things. It creates a life of good and bad. There are moments when you're sad, disappointed and frustrated, but the greatest gift that God has ever given us is the ability to have a child. The gift of someone loving you and looking at you on a daily basis and giving you that warm inner feeling, there's nothing better.
What is the best part of being a dad?
Probably the daily spirit of family. To have an attachment to not only yourself but to other people who on a daily basis work as a team to grow, prosper and progress. You have your good times and your bad times, but you have a support system. They say the greatest gift of life is love, but the next best gift of life would probably be family.
What is your proudest moment as a dad?
For me it's watching my children grow. It doesn't come in one instant. Just seeing them improve and move forward in their daily lives. I have two older children and I'm very proud of their success and how they handle themselves. And I have a young child. That is a whole different program, but seeing a three-year-old grow up is almost inspirational on a daily basis.
What do you and your children do for fun?
I think we share each other's lives really well. In the summertime I go and hang out with them and during the winter they come and hang out in basketball situations with me. Fortunately we all kind of love basketball and it's an enjoyable place for us to be. My ex-wife's family and my partner's family are now all big basketball people, so basketball is always probably the focal point of our get togethers. But I think it's just interacting and sharing each others live and how we can help each other grow.
What is the hardest part about being a dad?
Probably having to discipline or put in place a behavior or action in a tough way. You never like hurting your loved ones, but a lot of progress can be made by putting them in place and then rebuilding from there.
Accountability, responsibility and respect are big words to me because my dad raised me basically on those three words. Your word is important, be accountable for your actions, be respectful to the circumstances of life, be responsible and have the ability to respond to any circumstance that may come up in a positive way. Parenting is difficult, but it's extremely rewarding.
What kind of dad do you strive to be?
Just one that shares love, is loved and gives support. Being a basketball coach I'm not a dad of quantity, but more of a dad of quality. I'm traveling a lot, but when I have the opportunities, I try to take advantage of those and do them well.
Describe your funniest moment as a dad.
Oh, they probably came when the kids were young. I've always felt that a good parent is one that acts like the child, so I'm the clown and the goofball and the guy who doesn't want to have a lot of maturity in some situations. I want to enjoy life and laugh. When we compete and need to be serious we are, but I'm a big believer in laughter. I like having comedy and laughter in my life and a lot of the times I'm the leader in those regards.
So I don't know if I could pick out just one moment, but it would probably be Christmas time. I love that time of year. The family, the presents, the gift of giving is rampant throughout your house, and there is an energy of spirit of Santa Claus that lives today. I read the Polar Express every Christmas because I do believe there is a Santa Claus. And so with all that said, I'd probably say the most fun memories as a dad are probably from Christmases past.
What would you hope that your kids would say about you if asked what kind of a dad they have?
I'd hope they'd say that I've always been there for them, but I'm sure they probably wouldn't. I think they know that I'm a caring and open person to what they want to be. My favorite question to my kids is "what do you want?"
I ask them probably every three months, "what do you want in life right now?" Sometimes the dreams and goals are pretty ambitious and sometimes they're capable of getting done. With your children, you want the best for them, but you also want them to grow up with the understanding that they need to take care of business be responsible. And for the most part I'm very happy with my children and how they've grown with my help.
What is the most important piece of advice you’ve received about fatherhood?
They're yours, so love them everyday. If they're having trouble in school, or they're acting bratty or you think they're too spoiled...they're yours. Everyday it's your job to make an improvement and direct them in a better way. If they're struggling, you're struggling. You have to understand that they're yours no matter what. It's not basketball, you can't trade them. They're yours, so love them no matter what life throws at you.
What would you consider to be your most inspiring moment as a dad?
I think the most inspiring moment as a father is watching your child being born. I think that is the moment when you go, "wow". I didn't see my first one, but I was present at the birth of my other children and it's an extremely powerful and spiritual and inspiring moment.