What does fatherhood mean to you?
As a father your role changes from day to day and year to year. I now look at what my grandson’s needs are as opposed to my older children because my role as a parent is very different now that my children are young adults. I think my children need me to answer the phone if they call. I probably won’t be able to solve a problem but hopefully I will be able to guide them and give a suggestion or two. Knowing that I’m going be at home or answer the phone I hope gives them some comfort and security.
The role of a parent is an honor whereas the role as a grandparent is a privilege. My son and his wife entrust me with the care of their baby boy every weekday and I can’t think of a better way to spend my day.
What is the best part of being a dad?
Getting to watch the wonderful journey each of my children are taking and for the most part being there 24/7.
What is your proudest moment as a dad?
All dads say the birth of their children, but I would add getting to be a spectator in their lives, including but not limited to: swimming, watching my daughter on the awards stand, track, a trip to junior nationals, football, baseball, hockey, the oldest son in the net, a lot of music over the years, the last wind ensemble performance at CSU, education, graduations, weddings, the first driver’s license and the birth of a grandson with another one on the way. A father is always his children’s biggest fan.
What do you and your children do for fun?
Now that the kids are older, we spend a lot of time on the phone, especially with the one at the University of Idaho. I play golf with my son and my grandson has his first set of clubs so he can go with papa, (my excuse to go to the course). My oldest daughter and I love hair bands and Highlander.
What is the hardest part about being a dad?
Losing my oldest son.
What kind of dad do you strive to be?
The kind that listens (my wife says I still need help in this department), is positive and is simply there for them.
Describe your funniest moment as a dad?
I have quite a few!
My oldest daughter at her music recital playing a piece on the piano at break neck speed to the point where her teacher looked like she would faint and getting a call from her school because she made a student-teacher cry.
The look on my oldest son’s face after accidentally throwing a hammer through a neighbor’s picture window and the speed at which he left the scene.
My youngest son playing football in the front yard, which eventually bounced off a pole anchoring a new tree. He was so embarrassed that he jumped in the family’s full size Bronco, knocked it out of gear and started down the drive way. Well now he really had something to cry about.
My youngest daughter’s first day at swim team practice. Hanging onto the passenger side door, kicking and screaming, “I don’t know anybody!” I simply replied, “You will in an hour.”
My grandson is almost two and I taught him that his dad’s name is Brett and he should call him that and the confused look on his mom and dad’s face when the little man yells BRETT. Now my secret is out.
What would you hope that your kids would say about you if asked what kind of a dad they have?
Strict but loving. Just kidding. I’m a big sap when it comes to the kids and they know it. I would hope they would say I’m a good dad, a great grandfather, supportive, loving, always there and a good cook.
What is the most important piece of advice you’ve received about fatherhood?
Never leave the scene of a crime. My father-in-law always said to raise kids you really need a sense of humor.
What would you consider to be your most inspiring moment as a dad?
The strength my children showed, both as a group and individually, after the loss of their brother.