What does fatherhood mean to you?
Fatherhood is not just being a Dad. That’s the fun part. Fatherhood carries a challenging responsibility. As a father you are responsible for the safety, security and, most importantly, the character of your children.
What is the best part of being a dad?
The best part is having fun with your kids and getting to see them grow up and change right in front of your eyes. The transformation is truly amazing. I really enjoy getting to celebrate with them in their successes.
What is your proudest moment as a dad?
My son, Kenny, who has cerebral palsy, graduated from Rampart High School in 2000. His para-professionals worked with him for two years to be able to ‘walk’ across the stage to get his diploma instead of being pushed in his wheelchair. As he moved across the stage someone in his class cheered him on, yelling, “You’re the Man, Kenny!!”. Starting with his classmates, the whole arena gave him a standing ovation! My dad was there too and when I looked over at him we were both crying!
What do you and your children do for fun?
Our family loves to play games – board games, Wii, ping-pong - you name it, we’ll play it. I also love sports so I try and keep my children involved in at least one sport. I coach them a lot too - soccer, basketball and running seem to be the sports we do for fun.
What is the hardest part about being a dad?
Finding time for just my wife and I to enjoy ourselves and spend time together. We’re both very dedicated to our kids.
What kind of dad do you strive to be?
I guess I would say I’m a ‘hands-on’ kind of dad. I’m always in trouble for wrestling with the kids and I enjoy teaching them anything I can – from playing basketball to flying airplanes. I want to always set a good example for them to follow.
Describe your funniest moment as a dad.
We were at the rodeo with the family and Kenny had a big coke on his tray (unfortunately without a lid). With his cerebral palsy, he is easily startled by loud noises. The clowns were doing their act and had a gun as part of their show. When the clown shot off the shotgun, it was really loud and I didn’t have time to react and get Kenny’s coke. Kenny was startled and threw the coke which soaked the guy in front of him. I was right next to Kenny and the guy turned around like he was ready to fight. I thought we were doomed but then he saw Kenny and realized what had happened. We were all able to laugh about it afterwards. (Thank God!).
What would you hope that your kids would say about you if asked what kind of a dad they have?
A dad that loves them and is always there for them.
What is the most important piece of advice you’ve received about fatherhood?
Don’t be afraid to discipline your kids – you’re not there to be their ‘friend’ all of the time. Part of the dad job description includes being a parent.
What would you consider to be your most inspiring moment as a dad?
It has to be the recent ADT Marathon where I got to push Kenny, with the help of my oldest daughter Lauren, and have my younger children there to cheer us on and ‘hydrate’ us. To see Kenny’s smile as he got his medal and knowing how much he helped the Cerebral Palsy Association was truly an inspiration. He still asks if we can go running!