What does fatherhood mean to you?
It means being available for my children in the moment. Being there for them when they need a tutor, playmate or friend, someone to listen, someone to read or help with math and answer all those crazy and not so crazy questions children ask. Fatherhood means being there for my children spiritually, mentally, physically and psychologically.
What is the best part of being a dad?
I would have to say all of the first things children do and learn as they grow and develop. The day they were born, their first words, first steps, first time going to the bathroom without your help, first day of school and the first time they say or identify their ABCs, 123s and colors. It’s those moments when after a long day at work, they run up to greet you and exclaim “daddy’s home”! My sons even ask me about my day and it’s wonderful to know they care. The best part of being a dad is also when my boys give me a hug or kiss and say I love you daddy.
What is your proudest moment as a dad?
When my sons were born. Being able to witness the birth of life into this world is by far my proudest moment.
What do you and your children do for fun?
Wow, it would be easier to ask what don’t we do! We go to the park, play games, visit the Museum of Nature and Science, the Children’s Museum, the zoo and the aquarium, we read and learn math together, take long walks at the park, go to swimming lessons, have ice cream treats and go to the book store and movie theater.
What is the hardest part about being a dad?
It is difficult when one of my children isn’t feeling well or when they fall down and scrap their knee or elbow. Having to put a child in timeout also takes its toll, but I know that sometimes it needs to be done. The boys may say that I’m being mean, but I’ll remind them why they have to be there. Sometimes they will come around and say that they’re sorry. That makes me feel better!
What kind of dad do you strive to be?
I just want to be the best dad I can possibly be no matter what is going on in the world around me. I hope that when my boys grow up they will see that I tried to give them the support and guidance they needed to develop into mature, healthy, responsible and productive young men.
Describe your funniest moment as a dad.
That’s a loaded question! Well, when you have three boys at home and one on the way there are a lot of funny moments. A few weeks after my second child was born, my oldest asked when we would be taking the baby back to the hospital. My middle son is very conscious about his appearance and he gets upset when anyone touches his hair. This is coming from a three-year-old! Or finding my youngest child in a sea of yogurt recently was also pretty funny. I really try to be in the moment with my boys so I could give you a lot of funny stories!
What would you hope that your kids would say about you if asked what kind of a dad they have?
At the ages they are now – 5, 3 and 1 (with another on the way!) - I would hope they would simply say that they have a good daddy. I don’t think they have much to compare me to right now, but I think as they grow older they will see that I do try to go above and beyond as their father.
What is the most important piece of advice you’ve received about fatherhood?
After my first son was born, my father told me to allow my children to be children and not to rush them into adulthood too quickly. Each child develops at a different rate. My job is to help them navigate through life, but not to make all of the decisions for them. They are going to stumble and fall along this road called life. But, falling down and picking themselves back up is all part of the plan to help them grow.
What would you consider to be your most inspiring moment as a dad?
It’s those moments when I observe my boys playing, sharing and helping one another. It’s when my middle child reminds me to pick up his brother from school or my oldest son says he wants to take his brothers to the movies with us. Or when one of the boys asks to be excused when he is done with dinner and puts his dishes in the sink. When you have more than one child you have inspiring moments every day!To view more of our featured fathers, please click here.
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