In This Issue:
- Daddy Hunger Documentary Screening – April 2
- Online Registration Available for Upcoming Fatherhood Training
- Benefits of the Family Support Line
- Program Spotlight
- Save the Date – 2009 Colorado Fatherhood Rally
- March Featured Father
- Colorado Men Against Domestic Violence Campaign Update
- Subscribe to the Latest Be There for Your Kids Public Awareness Campaign Initiatives
- Upcoming Events
Daddy Hunger Documentary
Screening – April 2
A message of redemption,
hope and love
Join the Be There for Your Kids public awareness campaign for a special screening of the documentary “Daddy Hunger” on Thursday, April 2 at 7:00 p.m. This free screening will take place at the Shadow Theatre in Aurora.
At a time when more than 25 million children in the United States are living without their fathers, this critically acclaimed documentary examines the impact of fatherlessness in the African-American communities of northern California. In the film, men and women from various backgrounds share what Daddy Hunger means to them and also discuss community solutions to combat father absence.
Ray Upchurch, executive producer of the film and a Denver native, will lead a question and answer session following the screening. Refreshments will be served.
While this screening is open to the general public, the film is not recommended for children under 13 years of age due to certain content.
Online Registration Available for
Upcoming Fatherhood Training
The Colorado Promoting Responsible Fatherhood Initiative will host our final Winter/Spring fatherhood training next month. Online registration is now available for this training.
24/7 Dad and Inside Out Dad Curriculum Training
April 7-8, 2009
Hope For Children, Inc.
Family Strengthening Center
801 W. 4th Street, Suite 104
Pueblo, CO 81003
The 24/7 Dad and Inside Out Dad curricula were both developed by the National Fatherhood Initiative. Inside Out Dad is a re-entry program that provides practical and innovative ways to help overcome the physical and psychological challenges that incarcerated fathers face Inside (while incarcerated) and Out (after release). 24/7 Dad is the National Fatherhood Initiative's foundational program.
Presenters include: John Holmberg Psy.D., Jerome Perkins and others.
John Holmberg, Psy.D., is a father of two and a clinical psychologist with expertise in community-based family interventions. For the past seven years, he has been a researcher at the Prevention Research Center for Family and Child Health at the University of Colorado. Dr. Holmberg is a trainer of the National Fatherhood Initiative's Dr. Dad and Inside-Out Dad curricula. Recently, he joined a collaborative which is developing the imDAD program, an interactive visually-based fatherhood curriculum for first-time, low-income fathers.
Jerome Perkins is an ordained pastor who has been involved in prison ministry and education for the past 15 years. He has developed and implemented several transition homes in partnership with the Colorado Department of Corrections and Beacon Behind Bars.
The registration fee for this training is waived for all currently funded Colorado Promoting Responsible Fatherhood Community Access Programs (PRF). The cost to attend for all other programs is $150 per person (continental breakfasts and lunches are included in registration) unless otherwise noted. Transportation, dinner and hotel accommodations are the responsibility of all registrants (including PRF funded programs).
Registration for this training will close on Thursday, April 2.
Benefits of the
Family Support Line
Where can Colorado dads go when they need someone to listen at 9:30 p.m.? The Family Support Line, a service of Families First, is a great option.
The Family Support Line accepts calls from 10 a.m. – 10 p.m. daily. It is a 'warm line' that has been helping fathers, mothers, primary caregivers and professionals in Colorado since 1989.
Callers to the support line are welcomed with compassionate listening, practical answers and information on all aspects of family life and child development. And if a referral is in order, a database of 3,000+ organizations statewide provides a myriad of options – a tremendous benefit to professionals as well as parents.
Callers can ask about becoming more actively involved in their child's education, what behaviors are typical for specific ages, discipline methods that work, finding time for themselves while single parenting, managing the trials and tribulations of living with teens or toddlers, staying cool in the face of marital and family discord and so much more.
The Family Support Line also serves as the fatherhood help line for the Be There for Your Kids campaign. Fathers currently account for 20 percent of all callers. The majority of calls focus on behavior and discipline, divorce and step parenting, parenting classes and legal issues. One father called every night for about four months to work through his divorce, his wife moving out, court appointments to secure custody, closing the family home and finally relocating with his children to a smaller home. Recently, another dad called because he needed to understand how to legally grant medical decision making power to his in-laws who cared for his children each day while he was at work.
Families First is a private, non-sectarian, non-profit agency devoted to empowering parents, nurturing children and strengthening families to end cycles of child abuse and neglect. With 23 years of experience treating children who have been abused or neglected and working with parents to provide education and support, the organization is known for its integrity.
So if a father or grandfather, mother or grandmother or uncle or aunt needs someone to listen, needs some information or a community referral and doesn't know where to turn – all it takes is a phone call!
Family Support Line
Metro Denver: 303.695.7996
Statewide, toll-free: 1.877.695.7996
For callers who speak only Spanish:
Consejos Para Familias
8:00 a.m. – 6:00 p.m., Monday – Friday
Statewide, toll-free: 1.866.527.3264
Program Spotlight –
Assistant Coach, Inc. – Denver
1. What services do you provide to fathers and families with your community access grant funding?
Our approach is unique in that we provide services and information to youth around the message of prevention. Assistant Coach provides access to resources that encourage children to make good decisions. We offer activities, seminars and classes to encourage positive behavior and introduce information to prevent “too early” fatherhood.
2. What do you ultimately want to achieve with your program?
The intent of our program is to provide young men and women access to resources, education and alternatives to negative behavior in order for them to make informed choices. Assistant Coach promotes life skills and responsibility.
Our after-school program is designed to offer youth an alternative to “hanging out.” According to Urban Institute estimates, the after school hours are the peak time for juvenile crime and experimentation with drugs, alcohol, cigarettes and sex. It is imperative that we reach young men at an early age to prevent “too early” fatherhood and guide them to opportunities that will lead to success.
3. Describe at typical day at Assistant Coach Inc.
Warm-ups – We discuss the theme of the day — respect, responsibility, teamwork, fair play and perseverance - and demonstrate and discuss the drills to be implemented to understand the theme. The drills might include ball handling, defensive positioning, footwork, shooting, agility, offensive moves, passing or strengthening and conditioning.
Activities – Participants receive hands on instruction and immediate feedback as they work on the skills introduced above in individual and team environments.
Cool Down – We provide positive reinforcement of the skills learned, answer
questions and discuss ways participants can continue to improve their skills.
4. What is the best part about working with fathers and families?
Our greatest reward is having the opportunity to engage youth and experience the impact of positive interactions between children and adults. That translates into increased test scores and improves the overall academic achievement of students.
Participation in after school programs is positively associated with better school attendance, improved grades, and reduced dropout rates (Clark, 1998, Hamilton & Klein, 1998, etc.).
5. Share a program/father success story with us.
The majority of Assistant Coach employees were raised in the communities we serve. But many of the youth we work with are not aware of the history and traditions of their community. Participation in our program changes their attitude, especially when they discover members of the staff and volunteers have previous relationships with their parents.
For example, one of our students shared with his parents that he was in a program that was taught by Chuck Sproling. His parents let him know that they had a previous relationship with Chuck and he then became more positive in his attitude and demeanor. He has also become a leader among his peers. It is clear that the availability of community resources and parent engagement has improved this young man's chance for success.
Save the Date – 2009 Colorado Fatherhood Rally
June 21, 2009 will mark the 100th annual Father's Day. This is an incredibly significant milestone that deserves to be celebrated. Plans are now underway for a national rally to commemorate this day on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial in Washington, D.C. Sponsored by the National Partnership for Community Leadership (NPCL), the June 20th rally will take place from 10:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m. (EST). Fathers and families will join together for an invocation, dialogue, Father's Day tribute, celebrity and political speakers and a Father's Day pledge.
The Be There for Your Kids campaign is currently planning a concurrent rally on June 20. The 2009 Colorado Fatherhood Rally will take place from 10:30 a.m. – 2:00 p.m. at City Park in Denver. We encourage all Colorado fathers, fatherhood and family practitioners and families to join us. Attendees will be treated to food, interactive entertainment for dads and kids, a new My Dad Taught Me video shoot and celebrity and political speakers. We also plan to have a satellite feed to the Washington, D.C., rally.
As this event develops, we need your help! Please contact Rich Batten if you are interested in serving on the Rally planning committee or participating in another capacity.
March Featured Father – Alvin Tafoya
Denver resident and current father of three, Alvin Tafoya, is the most recent father featured on the Colorado Dads Web site. With a fourth baby on the way, Alvin loves to go see the dinosaurs at the Museum of Nature and Science with his three young boys.
What is the best part of being a dad?
I would have to say all of the first things children do and learn as they grow and develop. The day they were born, their first words, first steps, first time going to the bathroom without your help, first day of school and the first time they say or identify their ABCs, 123s and colors. It's those moments when after a long day at work, they run up to greet you and exclaim “daddy's home”! My sons even ask me about my day and it's wonderful to know they care. The best part of being a dad is also when my boys give me a hug or kiss and say I love you daddy.
Describe your funniest moment as a dad.
That's a loaded question! Well, when you have three boys at home and one on the way there are a lot of funny moments. A few weeks after my second child was born, my oldest asked when we would be taking the baby back to the hospital. My middle son is very conscious about his appearance and he gets upset when anyone touches his hair. This is coming from a three-year-old! Or finding my youngest child in a sea of yogurt recently was also pretty funny. I really try to be in the moment with my boys so I could give you a lot of funny stories!
Colorado Men Against Domestic Violence Campaign Update
More than 115 Coloradans have now pledged their commitment to end domestic violence through the Colorado Men Against Domestic Violence (CMADV) campaign. While this number continues to grow, the CMADV campaign has been hard at work. Campaign representatives recently developed a logic model for the campaign – where we are now and where we want to go. Representatives will also begin traveling to local conferences in the coming months to raise awareness of the campaign and the resources available on the Colorado Dads Web site.
The Be There for Your Kids campaign is continuing to encourage men to participate in the CMADV campaign. Take the first step by signing our pledge at www.coloradodads.org. A hard copy pledge form is also available at various community organizations and social service agencies statewide.
Additional links to domestic violence agencies, national resources and mentoring assistance for young men are available on the Colorado Dads Web site.
If your program has received any completed CMADV hard copy pledge forms, please mail them back to this address at your convenience:
Colorado Department of Human Services
1575 Sherman St., 3rd Floor
Denver, CO 80203
We will then enter the information on each form into our online pledge database.
Subscribe to the Latest Be There for Your Kids Public Awareness Campaign Initiatives
Our public awareness campaign strives to get the message of responsible fatherhood out to local communities in a variety of ways.
The Fastbreak for Fathers blog, written by Rich Batten, fatherhood and family specialist with the Colorado Department of Human Services, is updated on a regular basis. Recent topics include “Talk with your teen about dating violence”, “Have you shard a book today?” and “Teaching money matters to our kids”. Become a subscriber of the blog and you will receive automatic e-mail announcements when it is updated.
As online social networking Web sites continue to connect various groups throughout the country, the Be There for Your Kids campaign has created our own fatherhood Facebook and MySpace pages as well as a YouTube channel. We are looking for new fans of these pages to comment on recent fatherhood notes and videos and discuss relevant topics in the discussion boards.
My Dad Taught Me at the Northern Colorado Children's Fair
Island Grove Events Center – Greeley
10:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.
Join the Be There for Your Kids campaign at our latest My Dad Taught Me video shoot this weekend! It will be a day of fun for the whole family at the Northern Colorado Children's Fair. This event aims to provide interactive entertainment for children while connecting parents to local community resources. We will be on hand at the fair to capture a new set of My Dad Taught Me moments.
Native Men's Leadership Training
April 28 – 30
San Diego, California
For three days in sunny San Diego, Native men from throughout Indian Country will gather to learn more about leadership for their professional and personal development. You will share your story with others, network, meet other Native men, laugh and learn. You will be inspired and motivated to step up and live by the warrior's spirit: to be positive, productive and proactive!
11th Annual International Fatherhood Conference
June 16 – 19
There are too many dads who forget what a privilege it is be the father of a child. In 2009, the National Partnership for Community Leadership's Father's Day Conference will salute and encourage existing fathers, advise and assist new fathers and re-define what fatherhood means. It's time to honor and encourage men across the globe for their efforts. Together, all fathers at the conference will take a pledge to work with others and their families to reconnect, rebuild, restore and reawaken the passion to serve our families and communities.
Regional Fatherhood Forums
Northern Colorado Dads Fatherhood Forum
Held on various days throughout the month. For more information, contact Tyler Osterhaus, Family Focus Program Manager, Weld County Department of Social Services, Family Focused Prevention Unit at 970.352.1551 X622.
Arkansas River Area Fatherhood Team
A monthly meeting in Colorado Springs, Pueblo or Cañon City for lunch, encouragement and for sharing ideas related to working with fathers.
The next meeting will be held on Wednesday, April 1 at 12:00 p.m. at the Center on Fathering in Colorado Springs.
For more information, contact George Hoherd from the Community Partnership for Child Development at 719.635.1536 x262.
Southwest Fatherhood Coordination Council
Time and dates to be determined. For more information, contact Diana Buza from The Pinon Project at 970.564.1195 x41.
Northwest Fatherhood Forum
Time and dates to be determined. For more information, contact Steve Aurand from Garfield County Department of Human Services at 970.625.5282 x624.
Northeast Fatherhood Forum
Time and dates to be determined. For more information, contact Jackie Reynolds from Rural Solutions at 970.526.3216.