January 1 - 8 Updates

What's the best part of being a dad?
The best part is feeling that I’m loved, seeing my children smile, hearing their laughter and holding them in my arms. Also knowing that when the world’s problems close in, my children will come to me for comfort and advice. - Thompson Williams, Father of four


Colorado Child Support - Rocky Mountain PBS | Colorado State of Mind Documentary now on YouTube

Center for Urban Families' 2015 PLI Summit:  Pathways to Stability and Economic Success for Fathers and Families

Healthy Marriage and Relationship Education Grants estimated post date is 3/6/2015, estimated application due date is 5/5/15 Read more

The Federal Office of Management and Budget completed an overhaul of Federal policies related to grants and cooperative agreements.  The higher level goals of this overhaul were to streamline guidance, strengthen federal oversight, set standard requirements, codify all OMB Circular into Title 2 of the CFR and to increase efficiencies and effectiveness.  All Federal grants and cooperative agreements executed after December 26, 2014 must follow the Omni-Circular (also called the Super Circular). Read more


FRPN Research Video Series
These videos highlight promising measures created by the FRPN for use in programs that work with fathers.

Explore family engagement across disciplines using new inventory A new tool from the Children's Bureau of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services provides professionals a guide to the definitions of family engagement in various disciplines, as well as how family engagement is implemented in each area.

The Family Engagement Inventory is meant to help practitioners working in child welfare, juvenile justice, behavioral health, and education settings. It shows commonalities across fields, and allows you to contrast family engagement across disciplines.
Read more

Facebook Posts (Link)

  • Institute for Research on Poverty webinar, It's Not Like I'm Poor: How Working Families Make Ends Meet in a Post-Welfare World 1/21/15
  • A Call to Coaches - Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Awareness
  • The Mask You Live In - Premiering at Sundance 2015
  • How Good Dads Can Change the World | Gary Barker, PhD & Michael Kaufman | The Daily Beast
  • Explore family engagement across disciplines using new inventory from the Children's Bureau of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
  • Men Can Stop Rape - One nonprofit’s goal to change the way young men view women
  • Connect with CNCS and the Martin Luther King, Jr. Day of Service.
  • Connect your program to an existing service and volunteer opportunity, or develop and register your own through the Corporation for National and Community Service (CNCS) United We Serve website.
  • TANF, Child Welfare Partnerships Help Strengthen Families | Youth Today
  • Sex, Drugs, and Rock n Roll: How to be an Ask-able Adult About Anything! Wednesday, January 28th, 2015 11:00am - 12:30pm Mountain
  • Support early literacy and language development by being a Colorado Business Reads Collection site. Help them reach their goal of collecting and distributing 100,000 books
  • Save our Sons | Richard Wright Charter School PSA
  • How children react to violence against women.What happens when you put a boy in front of a girl and ask him to slap her?
  • Colorado launches new child abuse and neglect hotline
  • National Save our Sons Night | February 6
  • Championship Fathering Profile: The National Center for Fathering offers a self-assessment tool to aid fathers in evaluating their fathering methods.
  • Colorado Child Support - Rocky Mountain PBS | Colorado State of Mind Documentary now on YouTube
  • Ron Haskins NYTimes op-Ed on Social Programs That Work
  • Documentary features the Colorado Parent Employment Project

Events (Link)

December 1, 2014-February 25, 2015
Bridges Out of Poverty Classes

December 18, 2014-January 23, 2015
CRC Nonprofit Leadership & Management Program - Application Deadline January 23, 2015

January 12, 2015
PolicyLink Webinar: The New Proposed Child Support Rule and What it Means for Low-Income Fathers

January 13, 2015-January 14, 2015
 Mental First Aid Course

January 13, 2015
Webinar:  Effectively Working with Child Support Agencies

January 14, 2015
Models of Success: Case Studies of Effective Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood Grantees

January 14, 2015
Webinar: Young Men's Health and the Transition to Fatherhood: Implications for Prevention and Pre-Conception Health

January 21, 2015
Webinar: How Working Families Make Ends Meet in a Post-Welfare World

January 28, 2015
Sex, Drugs and Rock N Roll: How to be an askable adult about anything


December 16-30 Update


The New Proposed Child Support Rule and What it Means for Low-Income Fathers
Monday, 1/12/2015  2:00 -3:00 PM EST | Hosted by: PolicyLink
Learn More and Register HERE

On November 17, 2014, the Office of Child Support Enforcement issued a proposed rule entitled Flexibility, Efficiency, and Modernization in Child Support Enforcement Programs.  The new rule proposes revisions to existing law that could significantly alter Child Support Enforcement program operations and enforcement procedures, especially for low-income fathers.  Broad in scope, the changes touch on a variety of areas, including the establishment of child support orders, job services for low-income noncustodial parents, and the modification of support orders for incarcerated parents.
Please join PolicyLink as they host this webinar to learn more about the proposed regulation and its potential on impact low-income, noncustodial fathers.
Speakers Include:

  • Vicki Turetsky, Commissioner, Office of Child Support Enforcement
  •  Yvette Riddick , Director, Division of Policy and Training, Office of Child Support Enforcement
  • Dr. Ronald Mincy, Ph. D., Maurice V. Russell Professor of Social Policy and Social Work Practice, Columbia School of Social Work
  • Jacquelyn Boggess, Co-Director, Center for Family Policy and Practice
  • Lewis Brown, Jr., Senior Program Associate, PolicyLink (moderator)

*The Office of Child Support Enforcement is prohibited from engaging in a dialogue about the proposed rule, and, therefore, will not participate in the webinar's question-and-answer session.


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Facebook Posts (Link)

  • New Jersey Legislators to establish Responsible Fatherhood Initiative
  • Nurturing fathers transcend traditional roles
  • IKEA's ad has a great message for parents
  • At-Home-Dad by choice - Here and Now WBUR
  • The child poverty rates in counties across Colorado are slowly dropping after spiking during the Great Recession.
  • Association of Government Accountants (AGA) publishes Blended and Braided Funding: A Guide for Policy Makers and Practitioners.
  • Being an Askable Adult
  • CRC's Nonprofit Leadership & Management program (Colorado) is looking for qualified applicants for the 2015 class
  • The 2015 “CRomnibus” and What It Means for Low-Income People - CLASP

Events (Link)


"Be there for them!"

I’ve been a follower of Mark Brady’s blog, The Committed Parent: Translating social neuroscience to help parents raise kids we can live with and we’re crazy about, for some time. In a recent post, Wiring the Brain for Wisdom, Brady cites research that identifies compassion, self-understanding, morality and emotional stability as some of the cornerstones of wisdom. He then expounds upon his belief in the importance of social neuroscience and the heart and brain connection in regards to wisdom. He also mentions the cultivation of learned fearlessness, and includes Princeton philosophy professor and social critic, Cornel West as someone who he believes demonstrates “learned fearlessness with deep roots planted early in his heart.” – Brady began his post with a quote by West on President Obama. 

What does this have to do with the title of this post, “Be there for them”?


Colorado Practitioners' Network for Fathers & Families

The Practitioner's Network for Fathers & Families is a coalition of practitioners, fathers, administrators, and other stakeholders committed to enhancing services across the state that will result in the children of Colorado having long-term healthy relationships with their father or a father figure. The mission of the Network is to collaboratively work to initiate, promote and support services that decrease barriers to and increase healthy father involvement with children, families and communities.  To become a part of the network follow the link at the end of this post

The Network seeks to accomplish its mission by:


What is healthy father involvement?

Some years ago the Colorado Fatherhood Council, soon to become a Fathers and Families Practitioner’s Network, created this definition of “healthy father involvement" which was adapted in part from the Fathering Indicators Framework developed by the National Center on Fathers and Families.

We define healthy father involvement as a man who actively models, provides for and enhances the safe and healthy development of the children, family and communities he cares for. Healthy father involvement includes but is not limited to:  


Dads, Discipline & Team Sports

 Am I alone or have you also struggled with balancing your roles as disciplinarian, parent and friend to your children? Sometimes when my kids misbehave, I’m too easy with the punishment. At other times my frustration gets the best of me and I react too harshly. Unfortunately, neither of these methods encourages my children to succeed and do better the next time. My hope and desire is that I would be an encouraging and consistent guide that would help my child understand and learn from their mistakes. 

I've found the observations and teaching of one of the quiet giants of fatherwork, Mark Perlman, to be instructive. Mark is the creator of The Nurturing Fathers Program, a fatherhood curriculum used nationwide to help men be the kind of dads their kids need them to be. He believes, and I agree, that a great way for dads to consider discipline is to compare it to sports, where working together as a team and abiding by the rules is essential to achieving success.


Make Two Lists this Holiday

Back in 2009 Princeton University Press published the bookletScroogenomics: Why You Shouldn’t Buy Presents for the Holidays. In it Joel Waldfogel of the University of Pennsylvania's Wharton business school states that the gifts that people buy for other people are usually poorly matched to the recipients' preferences. In Scroogenomics Waldfogel explains that our consumer spending generates vast amounts of economic waste – which in 2009 was estimated at eighty-five billion dollars each winter.

My purpose in bringing up Waldfogel’s booklet isn’t about the poor financial economics of gift giving (his point) but to urge you to think about how and what you give to those you love.


Don't Miss the Moments

Whether you are making plans for a big Thanksgiving dinner with the extended family or just a few of you at a local restaurant, the holidays are frequently a time of impossible expectations. I think we often go through the work of preparing for the perfect holiday experience with everything and everyone in place only to discover that life doesn’t usually happen that way. Don’t get me wrong, I think holiday rituals are extremely important it is just that big events have a higher probability of disappointing and small everyday moments are commonly ignored.

My advice is that as you plan and experience your celebration, release some of your expectations and tune your heart to the little things waiting to be discovered in the faces, eyes and words of those around you.


Not Perfect, Yet Amazing

This essay was originally posted on our Watercooler Blog in September of 2010 by Betsy Sweetland. Betsy was the Executive Director of the Central Visitation Program and died on June 19th of this year. We repost this in memory of a great and enthusiastic advocate for children. 

A memorial service for Betsy will be held at 11 AM on Saturday, July 13 at Kirk of Bonnie Brae, 1201 South Steele Street Denver, CO 80210

Margaret J. Meeker, M.D., author of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know, starts her first chapter as a call for good men. She asks men give “all their strength and wit” because they are the ones above all others that set the course for their daughters.

What do I know about being a father? In the 11 years I have been working directly with dads, I’ve heard the question from fathers, some mothers and other experts in the fatherhood field. Every time I have been asked, my response is I am a daughter. And as the daughter of a not perfect, yet still amazing father,


Now Accepting Be There for Your Kids Award Nominations

2013 Be There for Your Kids Award Nominations | Honoring Extraordinary Colorado Fathers and Fatherhood Programs

About the Awards
In an effort to recognize and reward outstanding individuals and program service in healthy father involvement with children, families and communities throughout Colorado, the Colorado Fatherhood Council established the Be There for Your Kids Awards in 2008.

Individuals and programs from across the state that demonstrate excellence, consistency, creativity and leadership in serving fathers or in being a father are eligible to receive an award.


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